Discover some techniques to overcome sadness.
Sadness is an emotional pain that can come from experiences such as losing a loved one, social rejection, or failing to reach a goal. But feeling sad is normal. Everyone has a bad day sometimes, and we all feel sadness at some point in our lives. Sadness is also a healthy emotion. Although it might not be the most comfortable emotion, sadness can help you solicit the social support you need, give you insight, and allow you to process life changes.
If you feel sad, you might:
Depression is Different from Sadness
Although we might use the words “sadness” and “depression” interchangeably and say things like “I’m so depressed today,” these experiences are different. Depression, or major depressive disorder, is a mental condition that negatively affects your daily functioning, has an impact on your body, and even alters your brain. Although feelings of sadness may be associated with depression, the difference between depression and sadness is not only about intensity or degree but also how it negatively affects the person’s life.
Tips for Overcoming Sadness
“The opposite of depression is not happiness, but vitality,” writes Andrew Solomon in The Noonday Demon, an atlas about depression. If you find yourself feeling sad for longer than usual or with a higher intensity than before, there are a few things you can do:
Gently ask yourself what is causing you these feelings. It may be work-related, about a friend, or even about something that you didn’t do as you promised. As sadness can also appear when you’re lonely, grieving, or feeling helpless, the first step to feeling better is to identify what caused you to be sad in the first place.
I know it can seem counterintuitive, but allowing yourself to feel the sadness you’re experiencing, giving it time and space, can be extremely beneficial. If you suppress or deny your emotions, it can lead to actual physical stress on your body and mental health issues. Cry if you feel like it or take a few hours to recharge. Studies echo what philosophers have been saying for decades: tears are cathartic, working like a purifying mechanism that helps you release stress and emotional pain (Newhouse, 2021).
If you validate your sadness, it can help you move through it. Be curious and compassionate about what makes you sad. Figure out what type of comforting you need—for example, you might want to talk to a friend or spend the evening alone and allow yourself to get the self-compassion you need (Hendel, 2020).
Mindfulness is all about being present in the moment without any judgment. This lack of judgment allows you to experience and work through the sadness more quickly.
Loneliness and sadness go hand in hand. That’s why reaching out to friends or family might positively affect your mood and strengthen your social connections.
Improve your sleep.
Sleep and mood are strongly connected. Studies clearly show the significant relation between sleep and depressive symptoms (Nutt, Wilson & Paterson, 2008), so getting more sleep may help improve your sadness.
Pamela (Pami) Parker currently serves as a holistic practitioner, coach and teacher. Her intention is to be a compassionate guide to those who choose to experience a healthier, happier and more peaceful way of life.